“Unfriendly people care only about themselves; they lash out at common sense.” Proverbs 18:1 NLT
“It isn’t you, it’s me.” Have you ever heard that expression. When we do, it is usually in the context of tension in a relationship or an explanation of a response in a difficult situation. But the writer of Proverbs relates the expression to unfriendliness.
Why are some people unfriendly? It isn’t you. Unfriendliness is born in the petri dish of selfishness. And then Proverbs tells us that selfishness grows up to lash out at common sense.
Common sense says that we need each other. John Donne famously said that “No man is an island.” Against common sense, selfishness will leave you on an island; friendless. Paul wrote about a better way to be to in his letter to the church in Philippi.
Don’t be selfish; don’t try to impress others. Be humble, thinking of others as better than yourselves. Philippians 2:3 NLT